Though it's one of the cheaper demands of a newborn baby, sometimes finding the right name can be startlingly difficult. Everyone has their own method, preferences and ideas, thus writing an article like this is somewhat of a waste of time, since there is no concrete way to advise someone on how to name something as profoundly important and life changing as a child. But, as with so much of mothering, every little helps! So without further ado, here's some of our carefully thought out tips on naming a potential new person:
There Really Is No RushThe absolute latest you can register your baby's name without things getting too complicated is six weeks after they're born, so we really mean that. Don't panic. We do grant the fact that naming a baby before birth can help both parents bond with the child, but in the latter stages of your pregnancy, impulsive decisions will be common, and it's important to keep things in perspective. Just with your baby to be, you want to avoid anything that can be considered rash...
See How Long It Is Before You Name HopMost baby advice gurus suggest floating a name around first, rather than definitively deciding on it, which we totally agree with. But we say go one step further; if you're prone to picking a name and then fancying another just a few days later, try noting down how long you stuck with it before you changed your mind. If by the end you're at a loss, you can always refer to your list to see which candidate had the most staying power!
Strike A Balance Between What You Want and What's Socially AcceptableNormality is a drag, but there's plenty of objective reasons why we simply can't name a baby Falcor, Magneto or She-Ra. You have to remember there's a potential life ahead of both of you, one that can be pretty hard just on its own, without walking around as Kazaam. Yet when a name resonates with you, or has meaning it feels wrong to toss it aside because it's just a tad unusual. The key is find a good middle ground between something that's too novel, and just a little quirky.
Get As Many Good Opinions As PossibleThere's a wealth of disagreement on whether or not it's wise to share your potential baby names with others, whether done anonymously or specifically for approval. It can be a bit of a blow if a friend or relative doesn't like a name you were quite keen on, but at the same time one shouldn't go out seeking approval. We feel it is worth getting as broad a view as possible; seeing how popular a name is already, wheeling it out in separate circles, and noting if anyone's opinion changes after a certain amount of time.
Visualize All The Ways A Name Can Be UsedWhen you come upon that eureka moment, a baby name can seem perfect. However it's good to follow that emotion with a bit of reason. How does it sound with yours or your partner's surname? What do the initials spell out? Does it start to sound silly/irritating/bland after a while? The best way to try out the latter is to find a suitable avenue to say it out loud; perhaps try calling someone or something else that name for a week or so and see how you like saying it. Or, try cross stitching the name or creating some kind of art piece around it - if you're still keen on the name after dedicating so many hours to it, then that's your winner!
Ignore Both Traditions and TrendsDespite a sudden explosion in kids named Daenerys, Eddard, Catelyn or anything else found in Game of Thrones, it's important not to be swept up in a current craze when you're name surfing. Likewise, we disagree with those saying you must pick a name with some history in your family, or one belonging to a relative. By all means if either of those are what appeals to you, do it or at least give it some thought, but we ask you that your child's name be your decision, and not the result of public or personal pressure or done as an attempt to be cool or in keeping with the wishes of others.
Readers and Daisybaby followers: how did you arrive at your baby's name? Was there any advice that worked well for you or, on the flipside, some wisdom you happily ignored? Let us know over at our Facebook, Twitter and Google+ pages!